Your First Night Together
Written by Oluwatomi Rowland Friday, 10 December 2010 07:05
A wedding night sex is something that couples must honour whether or not you already had sex before you got married. It is really a moment to remember, a sign of hope, promise and love that you will cherish forever on your journey as husband and wife. After the wedding reception, first thing you must do is take a relaxed shower. It is very important that you relax your body and mind in preparation for your first night.
- Try your best to spend a night at a hotel or resort in order to have total privacy. Perhaps you want some fresh flowers, soft music and some decorative candles.
- For the wife, a transparent night gown is very suitable to attract and arouse your husband, wear something he has never seen before or something mysterious and interesting. Smell good with some perfume on your ear and neck.
- Always be gentle, don't rush into the scene. For the husband, for your wife to sustain longer, you need to spend more time on foreplay.
- For the sexual position, it is entirely up to you. It is important to communicate with each other. Just try any position that feels right, as long as you are comfortable with each other.
- Take time to plan your first night together.
- Most couples forget to discuss and plan for their first night alone together as a married couple. If you want your wedding night to be an evening you will remember for all the right reasons, take sometime to plan.
- Keep your expectations in check
- When you picture your wedding night, you may fantasize about the romance of your first “perfect” night together and overlook the realities. This situation can create anxiety and unrealistic expectations.
- Keep in mind that your wedding day is likely to be one of the longest and most exhausting days you will experience as a couple. When you are finally alone, you may be tired, tipsy or more excited about digging into your wedding gifts than each other, so don't worry. Your wedding night, while special, does not make or break your marriage. As long as you honestly communicate your expectations, feelings and needs, your wedding night will be wonderful whether you have a night of mind blowing passion or simply fall asleep wrapped in each other's arms says Lisa F. Wilson a marriage counselor. Research says men are visual creatures, before your wedding, take him shopping and have him choose what he would like to see you in on your wedding night, even if it is something you normally wouldn't wear. Remember, it is your gift to him.
- During your reception, make it a point to make eye contact with him, touch him gently when you pass and let him know that you are looking forward to be alone with him. Psychologists say men need to feel needed and wanted as much as women do and the little gestures go a long way in kindling romance. In reality, most women appreciate the little romantic things.
Taking the time to write her a love letter telling her all the reasons you are thrilled she has become your wife and leaving it on her pillow to find on your wedding night not only will make her feel special, but it also will be a souvenir she will cherish for a very long time. - Another way to make the evening special for her would be to have a CD of her favourite song. Remember, you don't have to “think big”, you just have to show your new wife that you have taken the time to observe the things that make her happy.
- Discuss openly with each other about your wedding night to find out what type of night both of you will go through.
- Avoid Sex few weeks before wedding: This is very important for you to create a good mood during your wedding night. To ensure you don't break this rule, don't live together, one of you may go to your parents' house or friend's house.
- Try something new or different Read books or watch some videos or get a little advice from experts. This will definitely give you some new ideas for your wedding night sex.
Take things slowly Don't rush things. Make it like it is your first love night. Try to make it among your most romantic and intimate sexual experience.
Extend your wedding night to a wedding morning Wedding will definitely make you exhausted. If both of you are too tired to have sex, after couple of hours sleep, you will have better mood to make love.
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